Breaking Patterns of Self-Sabotage

 Your own worst enemy…

Your little demon…

Fear blocking your action…

These are all phrases to describe a common problem in healthy living, work, and relationships. It’s called self-sabotage, the tendency to undermine yourself by taking action that prevents you from getting what you want.

I like the first way of putting it, because I’ve felt like my own worst enemy in the past. It seemed like I’d start progressing on achieving something important to me, and then I’d stumble in a familiar way. 

You’ve probably done it, too, and that’s OK. Most people have. Let’s say you’re within touching distance of your goal weight, right before your sister’s wedding that you’ve used as a target date, and then… you spend the weekend on the couch with your old pals Ben and Jerry.

Here are some simple tips I recommend to my clients to recognise what’s happening and take action to stop it.

• Recognise what you’re doing. You know yourself better than anyone, so bake the potential for self-sabotage into any plan. Some common symptoms of it are a refusal to ask for help, controlling behaviour, negative self-talk, and a reluctance to speak up for yourself.

• Identify the fear that manifests in the action that blocks you. You might have a deep-seated fear that you’ll always be second in your parents’ eyes, so why bother looking your best for a family event? Whatever the fear is, once you name it, you can deal with it.

• Write it out – the plan, the potential for self-sabotage, the whole thing. 

• Tell a friend, coach or mentor about the plan, the potential for self-sabotage and the fear. This person can hold you accountable – not only toward achieving the desired outcome, but also to helping you overcome that self-limiting fear. 
• Follow the plan. Do what you need to do. And when that little demon speaks up – as it might – be prepared to ignore it. You don’t have to convince it to be quiet. Just don’t feed it with any attention or energy.

The key is to expect the tricks that little guy’s going to try on you and to have a plan to thwart him at every turn.

Sabotage HIM, so he can’t sabotage YOU.

Andrea x

PS. I have a 12 week Nutrition/Mindset/Movement Program where we support you and offer accountability to stop the self sabotage. It is designed to help women over 35 end the cycle of dieting, using a simple science-backed approach to losing weight and keeping it off, so they can fit back into their clothes, feel great and thrive with energy and body confidence. Book a Discovery call with me here: https://www.andrearobertson.health/12WeekProgram